How To Win Friends and Influence People is well know book by Dale Carnegie, I am sure MOST of you reading this post have read this book at least once.
I read this book a couple of times before but for some reason this book jumped at me when I was looking for a little book to take in my handbag, on my way to an appointment.
Anyway, I started reading it & it felt like I am reading it to the first time. So, I thought I need to share with my readers my notes from this great book and I am going to have one post per chapter.
The rules Mr. Carnigie gives are not mere theories, but have revolutionize lives of many who have applied to their business and life.
Ok, Today will look at Chapter 1:
“If you want to Gather Honey, don’t Kick Over the Beehive”
In a nutshell, do not criticize others.
Here are few excerpts from the book that I thought will help you understand how to better deal with other people.
“Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to “justify” himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurt his sense of importance, and arouses resentment. “
“Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improved? Good! That’s fine. I am all in favor of it. But Why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others – yes, and lot less dangerous”
“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do.”
“Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. To know all is to forgive all”
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